That’s What Friends are For: My BFFs,Their Perfumes and Signature Scents

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 Being a perfumista has the added bonus of getting to know new people, adding those to your circle of friends. But they rarely/ never have such a thing as a signature scent. It made me think of a few of my closest friends who actually do have something akin to a signature scent. For this post, I felt like sharing with you a tiny part of these wonderful people, and the fragrances that I specifically associate with them.

Let me begin with my friend ‘I’. She is an opera singer, but she is also the owner of an amazing soul voice, and can sing ‘Back to Black’, ‘Bagdad Café’ or ‘That’s what friends are for’ to match the Amy’s Winehouse or Dionne Warwick’s of this world or beyond.  She has been an exceptional friend in this last and fairly troublesome time. It’s fair to say that she and her two cuddlesome Persians have made me whole again through nurture and friendship.  ‘I’ wears Kenzo Flower (by Alberto Morillas), not solely, but mostly. On her it comes alive to smell like she just stepped out of a vanilla and violet scented bubble bath. It becomes an invitation to come closer and rest your head on a steady shoulder. Flower enhances the spritely, bubbly and very femme sides of her personality; she wears it like a cloud of femininity while she picks out a pair of heels for the day from her bursting shoe cabinet.

Exotica

I also have friends whom I have urged to come with me to have a peek into Perfumeland, and look what happens: ‘T’ jumps in with both feet and falls in love with By Kilian’s Pure Oud by Calice Becker. Actually, this is not the perfume that I’d most associate with her. She’s a warm, calm and steady friend, always ready with an embrace and calming hands. She loves to find hidden paths in the wood, and explore them her nose on alert towards the undergrowth and the damp leafs, and her eyes on everything with an unusual, or slightly amoebic shape. She wears Parfums D’Empire’s Ambre Russe by MarcAntoine Corticchiato  like the queen of the forest- its boozy fumes draws you in, and the closer you get, the more you fall under her spell. There is the sweet amber and vodka, but what makes Ambre Russe ‘T’s scent, are the dry herbs of coriander and juniper, the slight whiff of cinnamon and of course, the woodsy notes that makes this like going for a walk through ’T’s own magical forest of golden autumnal hues.

Cabaret

My childhood friend, J, is a red-head-hot pianist and dancer, with a sharp wit and the softest of hearts. She might pretend to not care a whole lot for fragrance, when actually she owns too many to deceive me. The one I think of as hers is the luminous Guerlain Aqua Allegoria Pamplelune by Mathilde Laurent. We have laughed and cried together though many years, and her caring and concern for those in her heart are boundless. In Pamplelune I smell the spacious liveliness of a red grapefruit, like ‘J’ deep in the ‘duende’ of a flamenco solo and the spiky green enhancing the focus of that mood. In the end is Pamplelune’s sensibility, which it owes to the shades of patchouli and cuddle-up vanilla like the moonlit night and star made shadows. Thus the grapefruit, the sun, takes all her fellow players in her arms, knowing that only together will they achieve harmony like the true musician that is ‘J’. And like her, the sun, Pamplelune too has a golden heart and fills the world with her generous, lively and mischievous fragrance.

Sirena

Whenever I smell Christian Dior J’adore (the original by Calice Becker), I will forever think of my beautiful friend ‘S’, whom I met at university. We clicked immediately, and have stayed close friends ever since. J’adore is her perfume, and they are the perfect match, both golden, extrovert and contagiously exuberant. ‘S’ holds nothing and no one too tight, and yet you know she’s always there if you reach out, or even when you fail to do so, she will somehow magically appear probably bringing along a ray of sunshine. J’adore suits her with all its facets, it’s sprightly but not fresh-clean, its flowers are a rounded bouquet yet of inviting and slightly come-hither-esque femininity, it’s sweet but never tooth achy, lovely but not cute. And last but not least it’s that peach bellini that we have often shared.

Black Dress

Another friend who’s move away from Copenhagen I only forgive since she told me that she is intend on educating her 4 year old daughter to perfumistahood, went a-looking, thinking she wanted roses, and ended up with  Serge Lutens Serge Noire! I repeat Serge Noire.  The way to this though, was not covered with roses, but with thorns, because my dear friend ‘M’, so loved the Black Monsieur, that upon smelling it for the first time, she seriously over applied- in MY tiny flat.  It’s still her one and only true fragrant-love, and I’m, after years, slowly recovering from the incident, and of course, in the mean time I wasn’t actually short of other perfumes to wear.  ‘M’ is a no-fuss person, who used to not be bothered with either make-up or smart clothes. It was her friends’ great luck, since had ‘M’ cared for those things; no one would have taken notice of us in her ‘super model-look’ presence.  Serge Noire says ‘I’m here’, like not many other scents.  This, the fragrance with the most brutal of sillage, on ‘M’ the patch and spices are yummy and comfy like a wrapped around fur stole, and it writes poetry with its smoky ink-black incense.  She might be far away, but spray Serge Noire, and you can almost feel her close.

 

The Golden Mirror

For good times and bad times
I'll be on your side forever more
that’s what friends are for
”- 
Dionne Warwick, Elton John, Gladys Knight and Stevie Wonder 1985 

 All  paintings are by Spanish Artist Felix Mas who uses his paintbrush to convey emotions as memorable as perfume and is renowned for his beautiful paintings of women

 What are the perfumes you associate with your best friends/ friends you met through fragrance?

 –Jasia Julia Nielson, Contributor

 

 

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13 comments

  • Jasia, What a beautiful article of a long friendship with others as well as perfumes. Loved reading this as well. It did conjure up memories of my childhood friend, yes we still keep in touch. Her mother had the most amazing apple blossom bubble bath.. If I close my eyes I am transported. Thank You.

  • My best friend passed away last year and our last meeting where she could barely lift her arm went to my wrist and she said
    Chamade… It’s you

  • My best friend wears mostly masculine fragrances or those with minimum sillage. That is against my taste but friendship is not only about fragrances, is it? 😉

  • Thank you for the beautiful read. My very best friend is slender and elegant, with a close crop of perfect salt & pepper hair. She wears everything with distinction, even yoga pants and flip flops, and Michael Kors is her signature. Somehow it surrounds her with this luminous shimmery veil of mysterious and expensive smelling flowers rather than the cheap air freshener that I get from MK (not being snobby, Fracas smells horrible on me, too.) I gave my friend a sample of Carnal Flower which she likes, but….she’s ok with MK, and she certainly wears it well.

  • My teenage daughter is growing up fast and we are finding common ground in a mother/daughter friendship. A year ago I won a bottle of Chinatown which she promptly confiscated from me 🙂 !! I was happy to oblige, for she graduated out of her “Pink sugar” phase and has now taken a serious interest in perfume. Although she wears other scents, Chinatown is the fragrance I most associate with her.
    There is also a lovely woman I work with who wore nothing but Jo Malone Amber Lavender until she started asking me what I was wearing (my own custom blended essential oils) and I began gifting away some of my scents. We realized that we had much more in common than we would have originally thought and we are quickly becoming good friends. I call her my “comrade in perfume” 🙂 !!

  • Thank you for your lovely comments, I’m happy that you enjoyed the read. And thank you for sharing your very beautiful stories, I enjoyed them all, they are truly special. <3

  • Interesting question. I don’t associate any particular perfume with any of my friends as they all change them.
    But I do associate Jazz and Pi with my father and Givenchy III with my mother as those are their perfumes since I was a child and remember them. 🙂

  • Fantastic post, Jasia. My friend Mary, a college professor, looked like she wanted to have me commited when I first told her about my perfume hobby. I made her a decant of Chanel Coromandel as a gift one Christmas and within a week, she was smitten and has been wearing Coromandel ever since. My friend Beth, a photographer, is a farm girl like myself, but she loves the very sophisticated Jean Patou 1000 and wears it beautifully.

    And then there is a friend who lives in Copenhagen who wears too many perfumes to count, but whom I will always associate with the uber feminine and glamorous Guerlain Aroma Allegoria Exaltant, Guerlain Attrape Coeur, and Nez a Nez Marron Chic. 🙂

  • Ines, you’re parents must have smelled great.
    Suzanne; Thank you:-) Isn’t it just a triumph to choose the right perfume for someone? I love it when it happens. And, that friend of yours in Copenhagen sure smells great 😉

  • This is a beautiful homage to your friendships, Jasia! Thank you for sharing. One of my oldest friendships (if I say Oldest Friend she will shoot me) is with a woman I will forever associate with Calyx. I ended up wearing it, too, but after we were less in each other’s company. My then-husband fell in love with it on her and said “you smell INTOXICATING”, which pleased her no end. Her husband? Not so much. LOL!

    xoxoA

  • Thank you for sharing this lovely piece.
    My friends don’t really wear perfume much, they probably associate smells with me!
    My grandmother wore Chanel 19 and also a lot of olive green and dark purple and a golden tan which looked great with her dark blonde hair and green eyes. I associate the smell of Chanel 19 plus cigarette smoke very strongly with her and with those colors. She wore Joy occasionally too.

  • Musette: Thank you for reading, and sharing your great story, poor intoxicating oldest friend 😉
    Mimmer: I bet your grandmother really wore no 19 with bravura.